The Best Methods to Approach a Woman

These are best Ways To Approach A Woman

1. Own Your Expectations

Here is how most guys shoot themselves in the foot when preparing for the approach: Of course they want to talk to girls, but they’re not always feeling like it’s the right time. Couple that with the fact that they’re also feeling some peer pressure and what do you get? A classic case of performance anxiety.

If you are like most guys, you have felt the terror of approach anxiety. But did you ever stop to think why you get approach anxiety in the first place?

For lots of guys, it’s the fear of rejection. I mean, let’s face it… rejection stings.

So what should you do? Don’t let anyone else set expectations for you.

By managing your own expectations, you neutralize the effects of rejection and allow yourself to think clearly about how to make your approach.

2. Don’t Be Lame

What is one of the most important things you look for in a girl? Sure, attractiveness is a given, but just because a girl is pretty, does that mean she’s enjoyable to be around? Not necessarily. And the same rule applies to guys.

It doesn’t matter how handsome you are… if you’re not fun to be around, who’s going to want to spend time with you?

So one of our favorite methods of approaching girls is to be the life of the party and spread those fun guy vibes everywhere you go.

3. Tread The Friend Zone

We’ll admit it: This may be a risky maneuver for some guys out there. But no risk, no reward, right?

Here’s how you tread the friend zone without being fake, creepy… or too nice. All you’ve got to do… is treat her (and everyone, really) as a person whom you don’t want anything from.

Sounds easy, until you realize that most guys really struggle with this when talking to girls.

Basically, be friendly, but don’t go all in on the friendly behavior: Smile, eye contact, light touching, engaged body language… you know the drill.

She’ll like that you’re warm but not too intense, and be way more likely to talk to you.

4. From 3

Everyone is afraid of something. Spiders, the dark, and approaching women are just a few examples. And one of the best methods of dealing with fear (especially when approaching women)… is by counting 3… 2… 1… and approaching.

Convince yourself there’s no other option. Because the truth is, there isn’t.

For guys who count down, but don’t act on it, this handy, psychological trick actually has the opposite effect… and reinforces bad behavior which makes approaching even harder.

5. The Question Master

Where are you from? What do you do? How many kids do you want? Heads up: That’s not a conversation. That’s an interview.

A conversation is a give and take. You ask a question, she shares an answer. Then you share your own experiences in relation to the question. But it doesn’t have to stop there.

When approaching a girl, try out a word game like “Would You Rather?” Here’s an example: Would you rather be chased by the Mafia or by the FBI? Tough choice, huh? That’s why it’s fun.

Don’t forget Truth or Dare either. That’s always a good one. And that’s the thing… games like these help you weed out the boring girls and, as an added bonus… meeting girls becomes less intimidating, and more hilarious and full of surprises.

6. Be A Scientist

If there’s one thing to keep in mind while trying the best way to approach a girl, it’s that not every method is going to work for every guy.

So be a scientist and experiment! If you find a method of approaching girls that works for you, try it with other girls. And don’t forget to keep it flirty and casual on occasion.

Not every girl is meant to be your soulmate. Remember: Meeting girls (and learning how to talk to them) is a skill just like anything else.

And the more you practice, the more natural it feels, which translates directly into confidence. Not to mention, it hurts a little less when you get rejected. Which can happen if you

7. The Goddess Of Victory

Have you ever heard of the Greek Goddess, Nike? She made her own clothing brand (or something like that) and the slogan for that brand is something along the lines of: Don’t think. Do.

In our last method, you had 3 seconds to second guess yourself before approaching a girl. In this one, you have zero. Here’s how it works…

- Walk into a room and see a pretty girl you’d like to meet.

- Turn your feet in her direction. Don’t stop walking.

- Reach her and start a conversation.

When you don’t give yourself time to think about how things could go wrong… you figure out pretty quickly that you had nothing to worry about in the first place.

Master this trick? You’ll be making big league approaches every time you leave the house.

8. Judge The Cover

Alright, now it’s time to pull the trigger. First step? Know what you’re up against.

When you’re at the grocery store and it’s time to pick out your produce, do you ever grab fruits or vegetables without checking the quality first? You check, don’t you? You don’t want your apples to have any bruises, unusual holes, or mold growing on them, right? Of course not.

So why would you want a girl with those things? Sometimes the best way to approach a girl is to take a good look at her from a distance and make some judgement first.

Ask yourself if she looks like the type of girl you want to get to know in the first place. Is she having a good time or does she seem standoffish?

Observe her (but don’t be creepy about it) and you’ll learn a lot without ever having to say a word.

9. Don’t Approach At All

What the heck? Swear you didn’t just tell us in a video about how to approach girls, to not approach.

Well it’s true. If you really want to learn how to approach girls, the first thing you’ve gotta do… is pause and set the stage. This is a technique we call, the anti-approach. In other words, hang back and warm up the room before jumping in.

Now you might be thinking, Intelligence, that just sounds like an excuse to not have to talk to girls. But you’d be wrong.

Because here’s what’s going to happen: If you just go out trigger happy, ready to approach as many girls as you can, and indiscriminately rely on sheer volume to get by, all that’s going to happen is you end up with a high contact rate, but low success.